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sleepy
In my own life I used to avoid the opposite sex an I found the temptation just kept buidling and building and all my prayers were rejected. This was because I did what I did as a self concious act, I prayed because I was weak and lacked confidence. The idea of temptation is so as a youth you learn one very important lesson, God loves you and He is with you wherever you go and He will always protect you. Its a chance to build confidence in us to teach us how sweet life is with Him and how much He loves us.
I personally find that I come to God all defeated and deflated and He picks me up. In God we see a reason not to be worried and afraid of what anyone thinks of us because so long as God loves us and we love God there is no awarness of any personal weakness.
There is a desert mother called Saint Sarah, her sayings are very few and very short but her life struggle is a guide to how to be a youth. The sayings are very short and if you read them you'll find them difficult to understand but theologians have written pages on just a couple of sentances. She was always confident and self secured and the reason for this is that she knew God loved her and that was all that she needed.
It is through creating a weakness that God is able to come and make us realise both how loving He is and how strong He is when he helps us.
Back to the topic, I used to avoid temptation and it kept building because by avoiding the other sex I was actually avoiding God who fixes these things through submission. God is very dilligent in letting us know how futile these efforts are by letting the temptation build. When we realise we can't do it and turn to Him, He heals us and we understand that its God who saves us and we learn to love and trust Him.
I used to avoid helping people as what I thought was humility but I found out that I should have loved because love is the fulfillment of humility.
Yothful lusts is just a stage in our lives going back to a point I made earlier there were two ways to react to temptation:
1) the opposite sex is an object for my pleasure
2) the opposite sex is spiritual
there is also a third
3) the opposite sex is a temptation and evil
If you do avoid, don't do it for that reason, we have to do it out of love for God, the aim of every work is unity wirh God and the core of that is submission.
In essence (I think you all know what I'm gonna say here :) ) go and see your confession father and speak with him about it. he has probably counselled hundereds of people in your situation and has a lot of experience on how to help you through these things so you can be comfortable with God, comfortable within yourself and also comtable with others including the opposite sex.
God bless,
CS
I know my reply comes very late but felt I would chime in.
With regards to hugs, I don't think guys and girls should just hug spontaneously and doing it all the time. Between girls, I can't comment because it's how girls express their affection for eachother. Between two guys, it happens with the manly 'twist' (the hummingbird patting on eachother's backs ;)). From experience and in my view, hugs between guy-girl friendships should be given in times in comfort. That's what the hug is really about. We're embracing that person who's needing a bit of assurance, care, and somewhere safe to rest a while. Sometimes, that person may need to cry.
You also hug a very close friend, but again you don't overdo it. You don't want to sap the beauty and power of a hug by making it as common as taking a breath. So for guys, it's best to hold off on the hugs, especially with girls who are sensitive, and be mindful of how others will interpret that hug later mentally.
Peace,
Mina.
sleepy
Thank you for your encouraging words. Pray for me.
Mina.
the problem with guys is that they follow their hormons probably to much, but it's the same for the girls i think (correct me if i'm wrong ::)). If youth would be more concerned with church matters than opposite sex, we would have more (like u name it) "perfect" youth.
also we really need to find something usefull to ocuppy our time with, whether ur a guy or girl... we are still young and we have years before we will actually decide who will be our partner... untill then we should focus on God and if we dont focus on Him now, most likey we wont chose the right person because God wont be there to help us because we pushed Him out... im not saying we wont have crushes until we find the perfect person but we must always be on guard and make sure that nothing occupies our mind and heart and time more than God.... if God isnt number 1 in your life wen u r single it is almost guarenteed that he wont be in ur life in the future... God gave us this time to build a relationship with him.. dont waist it
and another thing... i always tell my mom who i had a crush on and she doesnt take it seriously and everytime she tells me same thing, "Demiana, ur still young... ur gunna like anyone who has a pulse now but wen ur 22 ur gunna laugh at all this and wat u see as a perfect man will be totally different in the future." I'm 18 now and most of the people on this site r younger than that... so focus on whats important now and that should be ur relationship wit God
God Bless
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Guys rule...they cool, except some show off ones...
guys are my bestestest ever frends.
((im a girl))
girls are to sadd.....
yey boiz are cool
plz dont think wrong...i mean they are good frends, except some.
;D ;D ;D
all guys r, and all guys deep down inside know that, gals dont c guys the way they really are...
im an idiot,
but im sure u already knew that.
there may be rare exceptions, but theres all ways a hint of stupidity...
girls are not idiots but they cool too but most of them think the same and they wear fashionable clothes, they go to church to meet hot guys :o , go shopping alot, check their hair every 5mins, call there frends every hour or so, and dont really giv about hymns,tasbeha, the mass, aheya, and esp. the language COPTIC..(they hate it)....they cool, n its funn...im supposed to be like that too....but im too good for them :P
thats y i hang wid da boiz :P
((it depends who obviously))
boiz are chilled out....im not into boyfrends n all...coz i know i can control my self...if i ever have a bad feelin bout it....i can control it and make it go away...so im different n girls hate me...except my frends noe mee well ;D
so bye for now...its too late
byee ;)
but most of them think the same and they wear fashionable clothes, they go to church to meet hot guys :o , go shopping alot, check their hair every 5mins, call there frends every hour or so, and dont really giv about hymns,tasbeha, the mass, aheya, and esp. the language COPTIC..(they hate it)....
wow there! maybe u should know more girls before u start saying that they all think the same or that they all hate coptic. cuz that's just not true, maybe the girls at ur church, but at my church, more than half of the ppls that actually attend the church stuff are girls, and they aint lookin' for no hot guys
but i said guys,
and im sure that not one guy on this site can correct me cuase theyll try and say something, but then realiaze i spea the truth, all guys have stupidity in them...
thats a good generalisation,
gals, u cant say anything about gals there all 2 different...
dont worry
lets just say its an australian thin
aiight ;)
;D
were all idiots, all of humanity are idiots wen u think about it...
jesus came and saved us from our sin and we, me, thank him by falling to to sin, by making his death meaningless, by rejecting him, hammering nails into his heart... :(
its not a generalisation its a fact
us as humans r weak, we will fall, only through jesus shall we prevail...
(ps im not saying this in a harsh, offensive way, but rather in a contemplating, loving way)
im an idiot i admit it, whose with me :D
maybe idiot is the wrong word
but i think u guys know wat i mean...
;D
you could say sinners or weak but idiots thats just not the right word at all