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girl thing :- /
ok well, is having crushes a sin. and WHY DO GIRLS (boys too) around this age get so many crush is iit like a physological thing or somthing ( i prally spelled that wronge) well thanx
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At this age, your still learning and still trying to mature and all your feelings based towards your crushes are purely physical attractions, so it is not a good idea to get involved into anything as it may lead to serious consequences, and why place yourself in a situation like that in the first place?
I recommend that you discuss this with your father of confession, and yes, it may be hard to be this open, but trust me it's the only way you can form a bond with your father of confession. I assure you he will give you ample adivce on how to cope with these feelings.
In the meantime, i recommend you pray, and pray hard to the Lord to give you guidance and protect you. After all, this is the devil playing with your mind. If he finds any opportunity to make you fall, and fall hard, it's nothing better than playing with your emotions.
Well I hope I helped,
Keep me in your prayers,
God Bless
Mazza
that who ever looks to someone with lust assurely i say to you that he has already commited adultry in his heart...
so thinking about them in a "bad" way...
Assurely i say to you that you have commited the sin of ADULTRY!!
Excuse me, but i'd like to go back a couple posts. If i looked at someone with lust, or thought about the person in a bad way, i've committed adultry?
In the spiritual sense, yes. It doesn't mean looking at someone with lust is as bad as stealing another man's wife, but its still a different form of the same sin.
Hope I clarified some things
first a crush is mostly based on looks and a lot of other outer stuff that everyone sees. a crush is not love, lust, or adultry. and it's not based on emotions either. because if it is it's considered love. a crush is not considered a sin but if really there, father of confession would be the best person to listen and advice. also crush should be treated early cauz that crush that is for 13 or 14 -y-o kids would may be turn in to the sinful thought that everyone is talking about in the posts before.
but wait, thats not fair, i can't control how i feel. It just happens. idk
everyone think but having desire...then temptation..then SIN...but stoping it at DESIRE and stop yourself from getting TEMPTED..then that is FINE!!
btw..love is an emotional feeling where i have respect and attachment to a certain being...
i say ATTACHEMNT because if i had not known the person WELL..then that falls into the term INFATUATION...thats the way i see it ;)
well it's a kind of feeling that you get when yoiu see someone who did somthing good for you, who is very nice to you, who would make you special. it's like love but it's not cuz kids don't know that kind of love yet. at least most of them don't.
I diasgree with you here, I personally know, from various sources that people who have these crushes barely know who they are. So how can you say that 'it was somone who did something nice for them'? Remember, these are petty issues. These type of crushes are purely based on lust and physical attraction.
Mina, what your thinking of is something of a more deeper level and I would not categorise that as a crush. It's something much more than that, something you experience when your older and at a more mature understanding of the meaning of love, as you said before.
Forgive me, I'm just expressing me opinion. Please don't get angry.
God Bless,
Mazza
[quote author=minagir link=board=11;threadid=4087;start=15#msg57211 date=1151978579]
well it's a kind of feeling that you get when yoiu see someone who did somthing good for you, who is very nice to you, who would make you special. it's like love but it's not cuz kids don't know that kind of love yet. at least most of them don't.
I diasgree with you here, I personally know, from various sources that people who have these crushes barely know who they are. So how can you say that 'it was somone who did something nice for them'? Remember, these are petty issues. These type of crushes are purely based on lust and physical attraction.
Mina, what your thinking of is something of a more deeper level and I would not categorise that as a crush. It's something much more than that, something you experience when your older and at a more mature understanding of the meaning of love, as you said before.
Forgive me, I'm just expressing me opinion. Please don't get angry.
dont't worry, i wont get mad. so that brings me to my first point:
a crush is mostly based on looks and a lot of other outer stuff that everyone sees.
so to solve all of that, the person would need to know the whole concept of likeing somone on the outside looks or creating a "crush". also that person would more likly to learn may be from there FOC or his spiritual freind.
so that brings me to what i said in my second reply, which was:
[quote author=minagir link=board=11;threadid=4087;start=15#msg57211 date=1151978579]
well it's a kind of feeling that you get when yoiu see someone who did somthing good for you, who is very nice to you, who would make you special. it's like love but it's not cuz kids don't know that kind of love yet. at least most of them don't.
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beacuse you have just said:
[quote author=itsalwaysmee link=board=11;threadid=4087;start=15#msg57441 date=1152417562]
So i ask my friend why she likes him and she said becuz he acctually talks to her and notices her.
are purely physical attractions
Mazza
What if that's not true, personally I don't care what someone looks like I'm looking for someone I can talk to and be comfortable with telling them anything.
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