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Well for me it will be, take me up there with you, dont leave me here any longer.
If you are honest and open with that "friend", then perhaps these feeling won't come in if you and him/her know that you dont want anything out of this friendship, get me? So then handshakes, hugs and kisses would mean nothing more than greetings.
I mean for me when i kiss a girl (on the cheekss) (and i ususally know her well), it might as well have been, Bob, my friend, you know what i mean. As i said a million times before, what are your deep feeling for that person is and what his/her feelings for you are???
peace ;)
Defender
When you take Holy Communion, the Body and Blood of Christ, you should become a Christ-like charectar as you have united with Christ, so if your body and ur blood are of Christ's would yu want to hug or kiss someone?
Defender
i dont see why huggin or kissin a member from the opposite sex is a must, keep chaste and sacrifice and struggle for God, keep all that little stuff for marriage, so itll mean something wen u get to that stage...
plz dont b upset with me but i feel that the devil plants this kinda stuff in our minds, makes things appear harmless, and "ok"..
i dont mean to put anyone down, or make any1 feel bad
plz forgive me
youst, i understand what u mean... some guys just hug u and look at u like a sister and dont mean ANYTHING by that hug, it may as well of been a handshake. right?
some guys are like that... they dont mean to do it because they're 'after something' they just do it out of that brotherly love... its like i would go up to my little brother or older cousin and give them a big hug or kiss on the cheek... u get the feeling: y shouldnt my friends do it too?
but i think the point here is is that if u like this guy, u will start getting feelings towards these hugs he's giving u n etc... if possible try to subsitute that hug for like a high five or a handshake or whatever... and gradually he might stop
but the question id like to ask, is do these hugs bother u/annoy u, or do u enjoy them?
Of course you can say something. If he really gives you those hugs out of brotherly love then def. he should understand when you tell him that you are not comfortable with those hugs and if he gets mad at you then maybe after all he is not doing them out of brotherly love.
1.I'de think she's weird
2. I would defienitly know that she likes me or else how could she be 'disturbed' by the hugs?
defender
in australia if anyones doin the huggin its the girls...
but here, mostly guys hug other guys, they neva do that to a girl... that like outta the question.
(austraia that is)
sleepy
sleepy
Defender
cause I don't
sleepy
Defender
sleepy
i mean... i can't really advise u much on this because i've been put in the same position and the only cure i found was time... time made you like this 'friend' and you know time will eventually make u treat this guy like u would any other guy friend
and just like u'd hug ur cousin or ur brother, when he hugs u, it wont feel as 'pleasurable' lol
not sure if im helping much here... so ill stop now lol
anywayz, i was also in a similar situation youst. i just gotton to know a guy from school, who happen to be also coptic, and as the year went on, we were getting closer and closer. he and his freind helped me through my tough times last year, and i was really grateful for that. but, as we grew to be better friends, i found out that i was starting to get feelings for him. when i actually realized and admitted that, i talked to him less. he didnt seem to notice (a lot of guys are like that, sorry if this is insulting any of the guys :-\). even though it took a long time for my feelings to go away or i should say to subdue them, i wouldnt let anything more come out of it.
im not saying u r youst. no not at all, but seriously, friendships with the opposite sex sometimes become more. ive seen it happen, and have seen lots of close freinds end their friendship because they went out with each other and it didnt work out.
sorry i babbled to much. hope this helped
Oh great, now I sound like some middle school teacher......sorry....lol. :)
sleepy
sleepy
I recommend that if you want to know how or what your feeling or thinking you speak with your FOC. When monks start out they don't do this kind of thing themselves so we shouldn't either.
God bless,
CS
this could only be beaten by sever will, determination, and prayer. And most of all, the help of God.