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I'm new to this site but I love the Tasbeha community! I usually don't ask for personal advice on forums like this but I've been thinking about this extensively and coming to no conclusions so I'm hoping you can help me.
I've known this guy for about 3 years - same church, used to work in the same building, etc. In the last year, I noticed that he was interested in me so I talked to Abouna about it. He told me that this guy actually did talk to him about it and wanted to take the relationship beyond a friendship. Abouna advised me to talk to my parents about it and to give him a chance. So I did exactly that. We've been dating for several months and now he's talking about proposing to me very soon.
The problem is that even though he's perfect for me, I don't get those sparks from seeing him or being with him. There's no chemistry.
He treats me very nicely and I can see that he loves me very much. He's an engineer and I have a year left to finish my degree so this is not a childish infatuation. I just don't know if I love him or if I'm just making excuses because I may be afraid of this life-long committment. He's the first one I've ever dated and sometimes I wonder if he's the one or if there's someone else out there for me... but I'm his first one too and he seems really sure. Our parents are both involved and we have their blessing to go ahead as well as Abouna's blessing.
I guess my question is for those in a relationship already: How did you know he/she was the right one?How do you know if it's true love? What does that kind of love feel like?
Ever since I was little, I used to watch movies where the heart pounded and there were butterflies in the stomach when the girl falls in love... I know that most mmovies are unrealistic but I sometimes wish I felt like that even a little when I see my soon-to-be fiance.
What do you guys and gals think? any advice?