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If you are not in the altar, then you don't wear anything, and remain outside of the sanctuary.
It is only recently that some bishops are saying psaltoses should not wear a batrasheel, but the same should go for oghnostos if you ask me.
About kids throwing stoles around...Well, they do the same thing with the tonyas, is that supposed to be ok?