I am considering leaving the Coptic Church and joining the Catholic Church. I'll be honest, I think the Coptic church is more spiritual; the only reason I'm leaving is because I cannot find a wife in the Coptic church. Now I know some of you are ready to pounce, but, please, I really need solid advice, not patronizing advice. Marriage is a sacrament and therefore something very serious. Not being able to marry is a serious problem.
I know some of you are thinking to tell me 'just pray and God will give you a wife.' But I have prayed for a very long time and there has been no answer. I used to think God was testing me, but now I think God really wants me to leave. I have been waiting many years now, (about 10) so it is hard for me to believe that patience is the answer. I think this is a sign from God that I need to leave. Perhaps there is a greater purpose in me leaving the Coptic church. I have expereinced other problems in the Coptic church too that make me think I should leave.
I also know that some of you want to tell me that finding a wife is God's job and that I shouldn't do any effort to find one. But I am convinced that that is wrong. You wouldn't tell someone who needs a job just to pray for one; he also needs to go fill out applications. You wouldn't tell someone who wants the gospel to be preached just to pray; he also needs to go on mission trips and spread the world. My point is: prayer is part of it, but there must also be a personal effort. In the area where I live (in USA), there are only a few Coptic churches and I could not find even one woman who would make a suitable wife (for one reason or another.) I have to be practical, I cannot just have faith without wisdom.
So what do you guys think? Is this a bad idea? Defend your position. Prayers are apreciated.