Hello brothers and sisters in Christ,
I'm new here, I have been viewing this forum for a while though and I thought I would join. I have an issue that I'm wondering if you guys can help me with:
Its kind of a long story:
There is someone he is very kind and is a serious servant of the church and the Orthodox faith. We cannot see each other because he lives in another state but we talk on the phone pretty often. We also have spoken to each other in person. I met him through a mutual friend (we have several mutual friends) and we've been friends ever since. It started out fine, I didn't think of him in a relationship manner at first but as time went on he grew on me and now this is where the dilemma arises.
We talk, we text etc... and We have a friendship there are always "more than friend" moments. Ultimately, we both know there is something going on here that is more than a friendship for so many reasons. He is the one implying things most of the time, but as of late we both have begun to show our feelings to each other. The problem is though that we have NEVER come out and say something openly about this situation, about what we are and where we are going with this. We have been talking for a few years. Recently though, he is sending mixed messages. I'm not sure if its because he is busy (he just got a new job and has classes and family) or perhaps because its the Great Holy Fast or something else. When we talk, he acts normal and even implies that he misses me. But I feel sometimes like I put in more effort into the relationship. I really like him and I don't like the mixed messages BUT I cannot mention this to him directly because technically it is not a "relationship" and if it is simply a friendship and we have not established a relationship then he has no obligation to communicate regularly even though its implied that he should.
Now I am at the stage where I want to put a label on this relationship or cut it off all together because I feel like a yo-yo being put up and down and not knowing where this is going.
Obviously I like him alot but this situation is distracting me because I don't know what this relationship is, where its going or honestly what he thinks about this whole thing as well except he has feelings for me.
Sometimes I wish I never had this situation because once I care about someone I care ALOT and I want to get him out from my mind and just concentrate on God and this fasting season. Not knowing where I stand in this makes me feel unable to concentrate.
I don't know if I'm in love or not or if we should go forward. I could see it going both ways, he's a wonderful person and lover and servant of the church.
If it helps we are adults. (young adults)
Do you guys have ideas or experience with this kind of thing or how to deal with it? Am I being unreasonable, any advice would be great.
Thanks for your help
GOD BLESS YOU ALL!