I recently entered the Church during this last Pascha but one nagging worry (approaching 30 now) has been eating away at me these past few months that I'm shy to ask irl. Coming from the Catholic Church in the US, there were so many options and potentials for finding a wife. The OO, at least for a white guy in NY, seems to be the opposite.
Are religious Copts / Ethiopians / other OO open to marrying white converts generally? And, if so, does anyone have any advice on finding someone? (Websites, conferences, etc.)
P.S. The truth is the truth and if that means I'm unlikely to have a family, I won't be leaving the Church. It might just mean a calling to the life of a monk or priest.
Thank you in advance for any help or advice you can give. God bless.
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It doesn't matter if you're a white guy. You're American. That's what everyone will call you. I've been the American guy for 13 years.
My wife's cousins married a few "white" guys, a black guy, and a ton of younger kids in this region (Western PA and Northeast OH) only have one Egyptian parent. So, it's not like Copts just got here and look down on other races. It's actually becoming fairly common outside of the east coast.
I'd say, get involved in the church, attend your local parishes activities, help around the church or assist with Sunday School. A majority of Sunday School teachers are women, and they love having men around to help. Becoming a Reader or Hymnist in the church will lead you to meet people, especially women your age. Adult classes, festivals, Bible study, etc.
Focus on creating relationships and growing, not finding a woman to marry. Find someone who will guide your journey in our beautiful church, and bring you closer to God. Copts are extremely patient people, and put their trust in God.
It would be best not to think in such a narrow manner about marriage. We aren't Catholic anymore. When you're married in Orthodoxy, you become one. Marriage is difficult and far more complex than thinking of it as social or societal acceptance.
Let God guide your journey, not impatience.