Many posts that we write on Tasbeha.org are anecdotal experiences, or just personal opinions or experiences. Even some laws or canons of the Church I may not understand, nor even agree with. But what constitutes the official position of the Church is a factual matter - and this is often expressed by our Church bishops.
We can discuss which hymn or cantor we like the most, but when it comes to the stance of the Church on certain matters - such as baptism for the sake of marriage - this is no longer a subjective matter. It is official.
I'm no theologian, by any means, but I just want to make it clear, if I may, that the official position of the Church is we don't baptise anyone for marriage.
I haven't even given my subjective, flawed opinion that is pointless in this matter. I have just echoed what has been stated as fact:
We do not baptise for the sake of marriage.
This subject has arisen many times, and yet I hear the same thing: "... bring the person (whom you wish to marry) to the church.. let them speak with abouna. "
I do not understand this. I really don't.
Let's reverse it: Let's say that you meet a Jehovah's witness, or a muslim, or a hindu, and you want to marry them. Why aren't their parents, or friends telling them: "Oh.. bring that Coptic girl to the mosque, temple, hall, etc - and hope that she will become like us".
Why is it OK for us to think that we can make someone Coptic by bringing them to abouna, and yet we never ask ourselves: the other person whom I'm interested in, perhaps they are attached to their religion also - maybe they want me to consider their religion too?
To this point, I haven't even given my opinion. I haven't said what I think of these rules, what my opinion is. I've just simply echoed the stance of the Church. And in the Church's wisdom, in which I generally trust, I think we should be humble and accept these rules.