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When Christ met people he took the time to understand them so that he could help them in a real and pragmatic way. Like the samaritan woman, he could have began the discussion with a rebuke for having 5 husbands, and while mentioning never criticised her because He knew what SHE could bear when being correct and what SHE couldn't and because he spoke to her in a loving gentle and merciful way, she was saved. People need love to be saved not reminded of their sins.
We must start by remembering that each and everyone one of us lives in disobedience because the devil beguiles us to see division where it doesn't exist and lovingly encourage her to see she might be misinterpreting the situation. Its not enough to use your own experience and to assume what would work for you will work with her. If she is saying these things it is no good to say - go to your confession father. How on earth is she supposed to take that advice? You could start by saying something like - are you sure Abouna is like that? Maybe you've got the wrong idea? Why don't you give him a second chance? Maybe you're a bit upset and have the wrong idea? We must encourage one another and help people who are lost to see that the devil loves to keep us from repentance by saying things like Abouna is jealous or angry.
And for yourselves, when you do post in a forum, don't we also have the devil on our shoulder saying to us things which can make a problem permanent? Saying the right thing in the wrong way is another way the devil can use us to keep people from Christ. We need to listen and be prudent so we know if a harsh word or a soft word is required, in this case I believe what you've said is not a measured response to this situation.