I have a problem and I desperately need any help/advice/comment/prayer I can get from you. Writing about the details of this issue may take ages; therefore, I will try to tell you what this is about in a nutshell.
I have a friend that I have known all my life. I am very close to him (let’s call him Mister X) and enjoy the time I spend with him. Mister X has always been a popular person with great qualities. However, Mister X has had a major problem ever since he was a kid: he constantly lies, exaggerates and makes up fake stories that shed the best light on him. For instance, he can say that he went to do humanitarian work in Africa for 2 weeks when in reality, he never took a trip to Africa in his life. Mister X can describe the details of his fake trip with complete confidence as if it were really true. I am writing this example simply to demonstrate the seriousness of the lies. I know about ALL his lies, I spend so much time with him that I know whether or not he is lying.
Mister X is not a kid; he is in his mid twenties. Only the people extremely close to him realize that he is lying. When you question Mr. X about his lies, he becomes angry, defensive and talks behind your back. Me and 2-3 other close friends have always known about the lying problem of Mister X; however, we subconsciously neglected it and pretended as if it were not there. It’s also very important to mention that WE DID NOT realize the seriousness of this situation up until the past few weeks.
Basically what happened is that we put the pieces of the puzzle together and did our research and we are now convinced that Mr X suffers from the “pathological lying disorder”. What triggered us to solve this puzzle were the beyond ridiculous fake stories Mister X was inventing lately. Mr. X gets praised and credit for the fake stories he tells people.
We love Mister X and we REALLY want to help him. We have absolutely no idea what to do. We are the only ones who know about his problem. Please do not tell me that “maybe he does not have a disorder” or that “you are not a psychologist” because, as certain we are about the color of milk, we are certain about his problem. We have never confronted him as we are scared that he will get defensive and eliminate us from his life. We love him so much and this could not be said enough. We are never going to tell anyone about this problem unless we are certain that there will be a good outcome.
Any ideas? We thought about speaking to our father of confession and leaving Mister X’s name anonymous. Please, please let us know what you think. We think we have a responsibility to help him but the question is how? Pray for us...Thank you in advance.