I have experienced living independently a few times over university summer breaks for jobs. And I have noticed that when I live alone, I become very productive, I start taking church and my spiritual seriously, I meal prep, I am overall the best version of myself. When I live with my family, I get really lazy, eat out for every meal. I gain weight, i stop going to church, I start making bad relationship decisions...just everything goes down hill. I think its from the 1 million rules my parents put on me for my whole life. EVERY thing is criticized(22 year old girl here), my makeup, earrings, my clothes, much much I eat, how I walk, who I am allowed to talk to & how long I talk to them, everything is crituized 24/7. When I live at home, I do my best to avoid my parents.
Now I have the means to live comfortably on my own. And I know my parents will say no, but my spiritual life is 100% better when I live independently. How do I go about telling them respectfully that I need to move out? Is there another way to deal with this issue?