Hello, I am a college senior and I want to know how you want guys to approach you, who makes the first move and so on. How long should there be a friendship until I formally ask someone out. I think it is important to include I have crippling self esteem issues and I can make and maintain friendships with both genders but cannot bring myself to start a relationship. I don't know what girls would think if they know I asked them out, what they tell their friends and parents; I hope I am not overthinking this, if I am please tell me. Am I simplifying this, complicating it? I don't know if they are just being nice by not walking away in the middle of a conversation or if they are somewhat interested or if its strictly just a friendly conversation. I go to meetings in my church but its hopeless. Please let me know. I am also a deacon, servant if that somehow helps.