embarrassed, and need help

edited December 1969 in Personal Issues
hi all,
I'm very embarrassed to say that I suffer with a horrible sin that is masturbation.
I don't know how to tell my father of confession, and I don't know how to say it. I know everyone says that the priest won't change his opinion on you but I feel so scared and I don't want him to shout or be angry with me. Also, my priest doesn't have very good english, soI can't simply say I masturbate because he won't understand what i mean.
Please help me, also what effective ways can i do to get rid of this sin
thank you
God bless

Comments

  • Hello,

    you'd be surprised how much priests do in fact understand despite their poor level of English.

    Perhaps you can phrase it in another way?

    God bless
  • my church is very small, we don't have a lot of youth so I don't know how often abouna hears it
    also how do you suggest i rephrase it?
  • Go to Google translate - and find the words you need in Arabic. You could try explaining using sign language or gestures. Don't over do it, but I'm sure Abouna will get the idea.
  • yea one of the priests at my church knows all the slang that is used for this particular sin and his english isnt very good and not many youth confess to him. Just start off with like basic wordsa dn work your way up to the actual word then if he still doesnt get it do wat dthoxsasi said to do
    god bless ppfm
  • maybe say 'i struggle from a sinful sexual habit'?
  • According to the church teaching , discharge of any bodily fluid renders you unclean. I'm not sure you can have the Holy Communion if that happens. You need to speak to your FOC.

    However, if you masturbate intentionally as a means of sexual gratification outside marriage , I.e through exposure to porn or not - this is a serious sin. This you need to confess and seek guidance and resolution over.

    If it is just secretion of any bodily discharge, then you cannot have Holy Communion but there's nothing to confess about. It depends on your Heart and what is in your heart. Do you have lustful thoughts? Do you entertain these thoughts in your heart? Or do you brush them away??

    God bless you.
  • [quote author=dthoxsasiPhilanethrope link=topic=14474.msg165000#msg165000 date=1370645580]
    Go to Google translate - and find the words you need in Arabic. You could try explaining using sign language or gestures. Don't over do it, but I'm sure Abouna will get the idea.

    there isn't really a decent word fo 'masturbation' in arabic. just say it in english. he'll understand.
  • [quote author=dthoxsasiPhilanethrope link=topic=14474.msg165005#msg165005 date=1370686395]
    According to the church teaching , discharge of any bodily fluid renders you unclean.

    God bless you.


    Jewish view
  • [quote author=mnc_hnn link=topic=14474.msg165130#msg165130 date=1371593936]
    [quote author=dthoxsasiPhilanethrope link=topic=14474.msg165005#msg165005 date=1370686395]
    According to the church teaching , discharge of any bodily fluid renders you unclean.

    God bless you.


    Jewish view


    This is Mosaic law that we still abide by in our church.

  • [quote author=dthoxsasiPhilanethrope link=topic=14474.msg165137#msg165137 date=1371623809]
    [quote author=mnc_hnn link=topic=14474.msg165130#msg165130 date=1371593936]
    [quote author=dthoxsasiPhilanethrope link=topic=14474.msg165005#msg165005 date=1370686395]
    According to the church teaching , discharge of any bodily fluid renders you unclean.

    God bless you.


    Jewish view


    This is Mosaic law that we still abide by in our church.


    No. Do you grow you beard? No
    Do you eat kosher? No
  • [quote author=mnc_hnn link=topic=14474.msg165152#msg165152 date=1371675219]
    [quote author=dthoxsasiPhilanethrope link=topic=14474.msg165137#msg165137 date=1371623809]
    [quote author=mnc_hnn link=topic=14474.msg165130#msg165130 date=1371593936]
    [quote author=dthoxsasiPhilanethrope link=topic=14474.msg165005#msg165005 date=1370686395]
    According to the church teaching , discharge of any bodily fluid renders you unclean.

    God bless you.


    Jewish view


    This is Mosaic law that we still abide by in our church.


    No. Do you grow you beard? No
    Do you eat kosher? No



    If you had bothered noticing , our priests STILL grow beards and the reason for this is based on Mosaic laws.

    Do you know why we cannot leave the Body Of Christ over night and worship it in Church? The Catholics do.

    Because we follow mosaic laws where the lamb had to be consumed completely and NOTHING left overnight. This is mosaic law.

    The fact we have these in our church makes us orthodox.
  • Gestures? Explanation? Really guys! :P

    Just tell him you play with your privates to make them feel good, and replace the word 'privates' with your sexual organ.

    Easy.

    Oh, and stop being embarrassed... wow, You have to fight it! What good is feeling all of these feelings: guilt, embarrassment, sorrow or whatever, going to do for you? It will bring you down. Stop feeling sorry about yourself and just stop masturbating. I'm sure you have at least some friends of your same gender. Talk to them about it, and make a competition... see who can last the longest without masturbating. Eventually you'll forget about the idea altogether.

    Warning: You may have elevated sexual desires due to influx of testosterone. To remedy this: work, play sports, do things; keeping yourself busy, especially physically, depletes your testosterone reserves and destroys sex drive pretty well.  Also, don't objectify the opposite gender. Don't call them 'boys', 'girls', 'men', 'sexy', 'hot', 'attractive', or whatever. People are people, they're people. Focus on your mind and salvation and whatever else you want to do...

    It works...
  • [quote author=So Minute, So Lonely, So Blue, So Upset; Unable to Hold On! link=topic=14474.msg165195#msg165195 date=1371829302]
    Gestures? Explanation? Really guys! :P


    Yes, gestures.. why not? If he cannot say it, or is embarassed to say it, he can at least give abouna some idea by using his hands.

    I'm not suggesting he gives abouna a demo, but perhaps some simple hand gestures could help him convey the sin.

    No?
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