Hello brothers and sisters,
I don't know where to start. Long story short, I recently found out that my girlfriend of almost 4 years has been talking to some guy in secret for a while and hiding it from me (by while I mean 2-3 months). I confronted her about it and she was crying the whole time saying that she made the biggest mistake of her life and that she just got embarrassed or reluctant to tell this guy (who was in her class) that she had a boyfriend and things took off from there.
The first time I confronted her I was out of my mind in pain and I just hung up on her while she was crying (Cannot explain how I feel). I then spoke to her again when I was calm and got the details of what happened and they basically hung out a few times and she told me the most that happened was "a few hugs and they held hands". I asked her if she liked him and she said that she didn't understand how she could like him while she loved me. all this while apologizing every 10 seconds and saying a bunch of "im weak and I was easily persuaded". I then told her I'd take time to pray about it and decide what I will do. The last thing she said to me was basically that she "wants our relationship more than anything in the world and she is beating herself up because she messed up the most beautiful thing she had in her life, and destroyed the relationship with her best friend (me). I am sorry I know I have hurt you beyond words and I deserve to be treated like scum"
To give you guys some context we go to the same church, both in 20's and my FOC knows about her and is okay with this relationship (before these events obviously). If you're wondering how something like this could fly by me its because I have been busy with school and work and so on, and I guess I just really trusted her. I trusted this girl with my life and she threw it all away for something so stupid and meaningless. you have to understand I thought I was gonna spend the rest of my life with this girl and never ever in my wildest dreams thought anything like this could happen.
I don't know what to do... I am in so much pain because I really loved this girl. I think as hard as it sounds I could find it in me to forgive her, but how am I supposed to ever trust ANYONE (let alone her) again. Am I overreacting in this whole thing? what would you do in my position... any advice would help. Any readings you think may help me from anywhere please I need any sort of comfort right now. Part of me still loves her but part of me just doesn't understand how this could have happened if she loved me.
Please I need all your prayers right now to help me get through this time of hardship... and pray for her too please.
Thank you and sorry for the long post