Greetings in Christ to everyone,
Hi I just have a situation with a good friend of mine who I love but she talks way too much. Seriously, she is known for this in the community and I honestly have put the phone down and done other things only to come back to her still talking. I always try to hear her out and take everything she says into consideration in order to give her a good reply but no offense usually she switches topics in the middle of an important conversation and talks about what on t.v at the current moment or about anything that is currently going on around her instead of the topic at hand which is frustrating. There are times when I am listening to her talk about one thing and its almost as if she is talking to her self because I have not said anything for 5-8 min.
If I want to hang up or change the course of discussion, I just have to say it quickly mid sentence because she doesn't take breaks during her talks. The gift of gab is great sometimes but there is also simplicity in wrapping up one's thoughts in a few sentences.
My question is: How do I help my friend? What would you do to help friend not talk so much without being rude? I know she means no harm its just that I want her to not be known for talking too much and not waste her own time and other's time by talking for long periods of time for no reason.
Does anyone have suggestions?
As a Christian, I know I have faults too, and I'm not trying to focus on the faults of someone else. I know this is not good for her spiritual life because it takes away from her simplicity and quietness exemplified by the saints, she is also Orthodox Christian so this is something she does know about. I am just tired of answering her phone calls thinking it will be a simple convo about a certain topic that we are supposed to discuss, and after saying I have to go do some work several times, still being on the phone barely saying anything but listening to her talk. I just don't think its fair for her own life or myself..