It looks like you're new here. If you want to get involved, click one of these buttons!
Yes of course you choose others on what you know about them. In this case you should know that they are virgins through repentance and that you have no right to judge them. Why do u keep being so obsessed with someone's history of sins? Look at the person who's in front of you NOW, look at their situation NOW.
What we must do is respond in the relationship as Orthodox Christians. In one sense our salvation does not depend on the other being perfect, but on us responding perfectly.
Of course marriages can become messy, distressing, frustrating, painful. But that is life.
For an Orthodox person to go and commit sin KNOWINGLY and WILLINGLY, the consequence will be muuuch greater.God will never accuse us for something we don't know is wrong. An Orthodox person will have a stricter judgement than someone who was never Orthodox. The more we know, the more we are responsible for.
1: someone who was chaste physically speaking, yet sinned in his/her mind and heart and was impure constantly and entered marriage like this.2: someone who wasn't faithfull before marriage due to whatever circumstances (and weakness is something that can happen to ANYONE), yet repented, poured his/her heart out before abouna and God and lived with a more pure heart than 99% of the people in church, and in this state he/she entered a marriage.Who would you prefer?
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.