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please tell me what to do
Ok here i go. there is this girl at school i like and im planning to ask her out but i want to know if that is against our religeon. She is not from our religeon but she is Christian so i want to know if i can ask her out or not. ok so please tell me what to do
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Could you walk in the fire, and not get burned?
because that is what you are doing
our church is really against dating, because usually it leads to further sinful steps. dating is just a way to satisfy lust and desires which is not ment to be taken care of now...
and what's the point? i dont want to sound pesimistic, but it wont last forever, esp at that age. i know a few couples who went out for a LONG time but still, they broke up, and it was painful for both sides. why put yourself through this and put the girl you care about through that?.... even short-trem dating has the same results....
and usually (its actually statistically proven) that a big percentage of those who dated dont keep the friendship, and im sure you value her frienship enough to hold on to it... dating would simply break that bond.
what'll you get out of dating? more time with her? that can be done with a group of friends...
as well, if you go out with someone, you spend alot of time with that person, more time than you spend with God. God has to be the #1 focus in your life, and a new level of relationship in your life will take that focus away....
dating is a tool the devil loves to use against God's children because emotions are a big part of a teen's life...
i advise you to talk to your FOC and ask his guidence to help you 'get over' wanting to go out with her...
it'll only cause trouble and pain, its better not to.....
may God help u & bless u!
take care :)
but I also think it depends on u personally...if u think that there is nothing wrong with what u will be doing then do wut u find best....and I also I think the best thing to do now is to ask ur FOC....he will know better about u and will know the right advice to give u. Good Luck :)
God Bless,
Marianne
Awesome name by the way... ;D
n about her being a fun person...thats great...be friends!!! lots of things are fun by the way but not beneficial..or in the words of St.Paul dont edify n build...THINK BEFORE YOU DO THIS...u asked for all our advice bro n ur getting it...especiaaly if ur fifteen man...ull have plenty of time later ...if u date now its like ur investing time in somethings thats prolly just not gonna work out...(fact: most relationships starting at fifteen dont lead to marriage) Goodluck! n Keep us updated!
i no the church is against dating because it leads to sin but what do ur parents think about this? hve u told them about this grl tht u like or iz it a secret? i honestly think if u cant tell them then you shouldnt be doing it.
Wait until you are ready to get married.
I think you are being a bit extereme here.
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Wait until you are ready to get married.
I think you are being a bit extereme here.
He's not being extreme at all. Those are very wise words - especially coming from a 13 year old - i know i didnt think like that when i was 13, Goodstuff Matt, u should be proud.
For example, how would you feel if when you go on a date/engamgent and saying/hearing "oh yah, i have been engaged 20 times" since a lot of you say dating should be like engaging and only used for marriagal purposes. Don't get me wrong, i do agree that the idea of dating is to find someone that you can spend the rest of your life with.
dating should be done for a great part within a group, and if the 2 are ready and mature enough about it they can go out together alone , if they feel they are ready for marriage and are really commited they can get engaged. I'm talking about MATURE and SERIOUS people here, no way under 20 (maybe some exceptions of course). We discussed this a million times before i believe lol, funny how it keeps coming back ::)
i second her reccomndation to read that book, its quite educational....
dont make any hasty decisions without talking to your FOC first... dating is an evil trap for sure... (sounds extreme, but it is...) enjoy the single life, its far better!
as one of my priests once said "the single years are the best years of your life"
take care and God bless!
keep us posted :)
salam
At that age, 15 or teen age in general, everyone is going thru some emotional change, and ‎it is happening so fast that it we don’t realize it. Basically at that age, we are not ‎emotionally stable. ‎
And Sinner, to answer your question, after that age, and while you are in your twenties ‎your emotions start to settle down. You will have a clearer vision of what you want to do ‎or who you want to be with. So you will not get engaged 20 times, you will get a feeling ‎from hanging out in groups of which person is right for you (obviously this involves alot ‎of prayer, talking with your FOC, etc..) Then you get engaged.‎
As usual - My thoughts