https://tasbeha.org/community/categories/personal-issues/p26/feed.rss Mon, 22 Jun 2026 05:57:34 +0000 Personal Issues - Tasbeha.org Community en-CA https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/8044/applications Tue, 26 May 2009 22:43:58 +0000 miskande 8044@/community/discussions i might be reading too much into this.....
sorry for the rant ;D

Pray for my weakness]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/8032/have-you-visited-st-anthony-s-monastery-in-california Sat, 23 May 2009 00:16:41 +0000 8032@/community/discussions Thanks
]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/8022/starting-over Wed, 20 May 2009 01:29:41 +0000 Bibine1001 8022@/community/discussions
I am a divorced, 27 year old woman trying to put my life back together. I am currently a student in grad school now. I was married for 3 years to somone outside my culture. I myself am mixed. My Father was Coptic Egyptian and passed away when I was an infant and my Mom is Catholic Caribbean.

I was raised by my Mom and have been devoutly Catholic my whole life, however I feel that my there are parts of the faith that have not fully supportive, particularly now, as I feel my life is falling apart.  My ex-husband was not religious, to the point we had to get married in an Episcopal church. I tried to get him to join me in my faith, but it was a 3 year struggle, along with several other aspects of our marriage. After our marriage, during grad school, I have gone in the deep end. I have been dating unsucessfully and certainly not within the moral boudaries of my faith.

I need help in getting my life back on track.  I want to change. Even before I was married, I can't say that I had the best moral relationship habits as I have wanted so desperately to fit in with the American culture and also have an additction to always needing a boyfriend. Even after a consistent habit of confession, and then relapsing again, now I can see how wrong I was and I'm so ashamed and angry at myself.

How do I fix myself? Where do I even start?]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/8025/a-personal-issue-of-a-high-schooler Wed, 20 May 2009 19:58:18 +0000 Sheep Among Wolves 8025@/community/discussions
This is a really long story but I will try to shorten it, keeping all the details.

Well, one day, while waiting for my friends in the lobby of the school, a bunch of guys came up to me-now those bunch of guys consisted of those popular African-Americans, Spiniards and to my suprise, EGYPTIANS from CHURCH, but they stayed at a distance. Anyways, so those bunch of guys come up to me and ask me for my name but I just acted dumb and deaf because they were scary looking. Then one of them tells me "It doesn't matter, all that we know is that our friend likes you". I was taken by suprise because I am not that girl that dates or is popular so, why me?
I just walked away and forgot the incident. But for the next few days, the leader of that gang always tries to say hi to me in the hallway and I ignored him but the last time I coudn't stand it and just sighed in his face. Ever since, he stopped talking to me and I was soooo glad.
A few days after, while waiting for the bell to ring to go to my next class (I was waiting in anoter hall), this guy comes up to me and puts his hand over my shoulder and I think my facial expression said it all-I couldn't believe it--no one is to ever touch me, ever... Turns out he was the guy that liked me in the first place and that I had embarassed him in front of one of his friends.
Now almost all these guys are in my lunch--Well, after that I thought everyone forgot everything and that life was great but the group of guys, including some from MY church, are always snickering at me, pointing at me, laughing, etc.
I started avoiding lunch by going to the library and doing my homework there but sometimes I need to go to the cafeteria.
The point is that I don't want people to think bad of me because of false rumors, gossip, trash talking, especially not people from church.

I became VERY paranoid ever since...

I know I talked a lot but I am confident that someone can help me and give me advice. I need everyone's prayers.

God bless you all,
Your sister in Christ

I want people to know I am different, a sheep in the flock, that the Good Shepherd is sending me out among the wolves and I know that the Good Shepherd will never let a wolf eat me because I am his beloved sheep.]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/8011/sayings-of-the-fathers-on-anger Mon, 18 May 2009 01:12:55 +0000 8011@/community/discussions https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/7690/coptic-views-on-dating Mon, 02 Mar 2009 08:59:04 +0000 7690@/community/discussions
What are the Coptic/Christian views on dating?

What procedures should a young coptic man and woman follow if they are interested in marriage?

What does the Coptic Church advise?


Thanks
]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/8010/during-confession Sun, 17 May 2009 23:18:16 +0000 ServentofGod 8010@/community/discussions https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/7998/i-think-i-made-the-wrong-choice Fri, 15 May 2009 23:35:51 +0000 Mira8388h 7998@/community/discussions I am someone who has been engaged for about 3 yrs and we were planning the church engagment for this summer! but i broke our relationship because he didn't want to move to the US! and i wanted to stay in the US because I am planning on going to MED school but now i don't even know if i am going to get excepted to MED school or not!

I think I made the wrong choice breaking our relationship!

I let go of the man I love! we are talking now as just friends but there is something inside me that says I won't find a man that loves me more than he does! we have been apart now for about 3 months and everyday I think about him! and think about going back to him!

All i need to do is just convince my parents that this is what I want!

I don't know what to do anymore! I can't make a choice I am afraid of making wrong decisions and destroy my life i don't know what i want when i graduate from college or what am i gonna do?!! :(

HELP please,
bentBABAyasooa`]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/7498/martial-arts Mon, 29 Dec 2008 23:49:56 +0000 Meena_Ameen 7498@/community/discussions https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/7996/if-a-non-christian-insults-you-what-should-you-do Fri, 15 May 2009 09:48:00 +0000 Kimo 214 7996@/community/discussions The insult shouldnt have been said, because i didnt do anything.
In this situation...what should i do?]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/7906/tattoos Sat, 02 May 2009 22:39:19 +0000 jackgirgis 7906@/community/discussions https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/7915/stress Mon, 04 May 2009 18:53:40 +0000 confused_sinner 7915@/community/discussions How does one cope with stress?
How does one allow it to not overcome their lives when its being tossed at them in all directions?
How does one become joyful, patient, and thankful in tribulation and hard times?

All help is appreciated.
please pray for me
-a sinner]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/7940/help-me Wed, 06 May 2009 22:13:14 +0000 Patriots 7940@/community/discussions I have this problem with masturbation I cannot stop at all it is 10x more addictive than a drug. I know many people have posted about this but what makes my situation worse is when I do this sin I do not feel any remorse or guilt. I have been doing it for a long number of years and everytime I try to stop I fall into the temptation. PLEASE HELP ME AND PRAY FOR ME]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/7908/sermon-on-the-creation Sun, 03 May 2009 02:04:48 +0000 magedassad 7908@/community/discussions
God Bless,
Thank you.
]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/7896/does-anyone-know-father-abraam-from-south-jersey Wed, 29 Apr 2009 20:11:30 +0000 bigeee 7896@/community/discussions https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/7879/deification-of-the-clergy Sun, 26 Apr 2009 02:58:28 +0000 7879@/community/discussions
(I just modified this as i don't want to sound as if I'm generalising)....

I know this is a sensitive topic, but please be patient with me and help me understand your points of view. I'm extremely curious to know, and in no way do I disrespect any member of the Church..

I'd like to know why Coptic Christians "Deify" their clergy? It seems to me that whilst I've been in the CoC, that a priest can get away with anything, and even criticism by simply using his priesthood as a means to escape any rebuke.

Is that right?

Is it right that Copts tell me "no no.. you shouldnt complain about a priest, because he's a PRIEST!"

Yes, he is a priest, and should be held to the highest standards. Let's forget about priesthood - for one second.

I see NO reason why I shouldn't have a priest or bishop arrested if they've broken the law. If he is a citizen and holds a passport, he should be judged by common law.

Yet, why is it a Bishop and maybe a Priest (not all of them of course) in the CoC seem to put themselves SO HIGH up above everyone else that they think that they shouldn't be judged? They come in the mass telling us "Forgive me for my sins" and they prostrate before the congregation. They sing "Lord forgive us 1000's of times in the mass", and yet when it actually comes to admitting their sins or being accountable for their actions, they just play the "Im a priest card" and pretend they are immune to ANY criticism.

Why is that?

Surely, if they are our fathers we should be able to have an honest open dialogue with them? We should be able to tell them that what they've done is wrong (MORALLY/LEGALLY wrong)?

Where IS the humility then in them by not accepting criticism?

And what seems to give them the God given right to do something wrong and get away with it is the Coptic Congregation that seem to deify priests and bishops, as if they are above the law, above criticism and responsibility for their actions.

Let's put the Church aside for a small second. What is stopping me going to the police and having a Bishop / priest sued for slander/bearing false witness and theft?

Please tell me??

I can hear you say "Because he is a priest of God" - yes, and I am a son of God, and you are a daughter/son of God also! Is his hand that offers me the Body of Christ greater than my mouth that has received it?

]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/7755/how-to-stop-this-wicked-sin Sun, 22 Mar 2009 21:45:32 +0000 geomike 7755@/community/discussions






Pray for my weakness,
Michael]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/7852/musicians Thu, 16 Apr 2009 18:12:14 +0000 copt andrew 7852@/community/discussions
Does anyone knows  of a website, book, .pdf file or anything of the sort where I can find the chords for English and/or Arabic Taraneem (Songs) such as Via Dolorosa, I sought after you and such. Your help is much appreciated.



God Bless,
Thank You,
Andrew
(Also Tabs and notation will be nice, but my priority is chords.)]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/7843/is-the-music-i-listen-to-really-that-bad Mon, 13 Apr 2009 22:58:07 +0000 Searching 7843@/community/discussions So i have an ipod and i do have some church hymns on it, although i dont listen to them at all, but its almost entirely full of regular music, rock, hip hop and rap. I often hear that its a sin to listen to music with bad messages. I'll admit that the music i listen to has topics including adultery, murder, theft and the usual topics found in all music, but i dont think about any of it after i stop listening. I've never considered murdering anyone, or stealing, or adultery, im 16 and ive never even had my first kiss (excluding family), i just really like the music. I'll admit that there is foul language and i do swear but i dont believe its because of the music, id swear even if i stoppe dlistening to music entirely, and the same goes for my lustful thoughts because they will probably continue to happen even if i threw my ipod in the trash. so is listening to vulgar music really that terrible of a sin, if its a sin at all?]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/7832/stuggling-with-sin Sat, 11 Apr 2009 16:29:10 +0000 egyboy 7832@/community/discussions
Please pray for me and for my weakness!!]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/7842/the-hardest-sin-to-stop Mon, 13 Apr 2009 22:06:47 +0000 Searching 7842@/community/discussions please give me some advice, any information will help, its best if you know what im going through and how to quit]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/7825/please-help-me-through-a-crisis Fri, 10 Apr 2009 04:50:35 +0000 FindTheWayToday 7825@/community/discussions
I used to be on this website back when I was into the church, but I haven't been on here in a while. I don't want to give my name or any information, I just want to talk and get help.  I was never a perfect Christian or anywhere close, but I never did something extremely bad until I got to college. I have messed up in a lot of ways, and I just want someone to tell me it's okay, and to tell me that all it takes is to turn back and it'll be okay, but if that's not the answer that's correct, then I guess you can just tell it to me as it is. I'm really sad. Can someone help me please? I'd really appreciate it.

]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/7816/has-anyone-here-ever-tried-charismatic-prayer Wed, 08 Apr 2009 19:51:07 +0000 7816@/community/discussions
I would just like to know whether anyone here has ever tried speaking in tongues? or had fallen in Church by the laying of hands on you.

I'm just curious to know - What did that feel like?

Do you still also pray or sing in tongues?

Thanks]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/7802/biggest-sinner-is-there-hope Sat, 04 Apr 2009 23:44:11 +0000 Ashamed 7802@/community/discussions at that time, i stopped seeing him and truly repented with all my heart and became so close to God.

But i dont know why i am such a bad person, beacause after that, i met other guys and did it again!!! i am so ashamed and disguisted in my self.

i am especially upset that i did this after i really felt Gods forgiveness and presence in my life. so i just basically gave that all up!!

do u think there is hope for me? Will God forgive me over and over for committing the same sin?? even though i know very well that what im doing is wrong?

im really scared because i want to repent and live a good life, but im not feeling God's presence in my heart like i did before...

please help me.. is there hope for me????
]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/7819/exam-on-good-friday Thu, 09 Apr 2009 00:20:26 +0000 egyboy 7819@/community/discussions   i have an exam on Good Friday... the exam starts at 8:30am and i wouldnt be able to get to Church until about 10:00am. But I LOVE GOOD FRIDAY!!!! i feel like its a sin to take this exam on Good Friday!!  And the exam will also interfere will all of Holy Week because i will have to study for it the whole week. So what should I do about this? Should I take the exam and go to Church late (which hour would it be at about 10:00am??)?  or should i talk to the dean of the school and take a significantly harder make-up exam later on? or what else could i do?!?!

please help me out quickly!!!!
and please pray for me and my weaknesses!!]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/7753/where-is-iqbal Sat, 21 Mar 2009 17:32:24 +0000 Christ4Life 7753@/community/discussions
Pray for me...]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/7338/a-muslim-imam-taking-pictures-of-church Thu, 13 Nov 2008 09:25:47 +0000 bigeee 7338@/community/discussions https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/7640/hard-to-confess Sat, 14 Feb 2009 21:46:37 +0000 egyboy 7640@/community/discussions I have had this embarrassing sin inside me for a while and i dont know why but i just cant confess it to my abouna. every time i go to confession i want to say it but i just cant because it is so embarrassing and bad.  I am quite close with abouna so it might be that but im not sure, maybe im subconsciously worried about what he will think of me.  I know that the devil is trying to prevent me from repenting but i still dont know why i can not confess to my abouna. i have tried to abstain from this sin for long periods of time but then it just comes up again and i just fall into it like the miserable sinner i am!

so i ask you if anyone has any advice for me

thank you all and God bless you
Pray for me]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/7807/greek-orthodox-hymn Sun, 05 Apr 2009 19:29:19 +0000 Christrules 7807@/community/discussions
I was wondering if anyone had a recording of holy week hymns from the Greek orthodox Church i would love to listen to them.
I already heard Khristos Anesty its so nice
i was hoping to hear more!

Thanks in advance]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/7799/family Fri, 03 Apr 2009 17:50:08 +0000 Vany2010 7799@/community/discussions I wanted to ask you something.
ive got a "Little"Problem:
I Live with my Dad in a Flat,My neighbours are my Uncle my Aunt and their 3 Daughters.
The "Problem"is my Uncle,everytime I hear him talking with his daughter I get Angry,most of all with her Oldest Daughter(she is 21)and he talks with her like a Slave,and he wants behave against me like with his Daughter.
So he is sooo Annoying(sorry)sometimes and really i lost (very sad about it)the Respect to him but i do NOT Hate him.
So my Question is how can I Prevent to get angry cause i know God dont accept anger.
How Can I Stop from Gossiping about him??
Please Remind my weakness in your prayers.
Vanessa]]>