https://tasbeha.org/community/categories/personal-issues/p21/feed.rss Mon, 22 Jun 2026 05:42:09 +0000 Personal Issues - Tasbeha.org Community en-CA https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/9024/ethiopia Sat, 27 Mar 2010 14:32:55 +0000 aidan 9024@/community/discussions
Late on Easter Sunday if God wills I shall fly to Ethiopia for 10 days. The family of a little girl I used to teach will meet me and direct me to the historical and religious sites there.

I am a rash person, prone to irrational acts. This act is fairly irrational. I am Russian Orthodox but have not yet visited the religious places in Russia so why am I going to Ethiopia? I am interested in the country but I feel somewhat guilty that that will be the first Orthodox country (other than Greece and Cyprus) that I ever visited.

Explanations, prayers and advise please!]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/8767/egyptian-parents Wed, 03 Feb 2010 00:34:01 +0000 neighbor 8767@/community/discussions They say its because they want their kids to have a great income, but life isn't supposed to be about money. Just because someone is rich doesn't mean they'll be happy. There isn't an entrance fee into heaven.
Infact, Jesus Christ our Savior said that "Again I say to you, it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle, than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God." Mathew 19:24.
I don't get how Egyptian parents go to church and say "do not love the world nor the things of the world for all shall pass away" yet all they care about is money which = happiness according to their actions. All they really want is bragging rights, right? They just want to be able to say "Oh my kid is a doctor".

so somehow Money = happiness
yet God = happiness
so money = God? >|?

Maybe there's a parent out there who can explain this theory over here? Why do all the kids HAVE TO be doctors? why can't we be something we actually enjoy? Perhaps something that requires college (gasp) or maybe something, dare i say it, not in science or engineering? Why is it that if a person is not a doctor, their parents are ashamed or uneasy?
???]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/8588/love-love-is-a-verb-or-is-it Tue, 15 Dec 2009 18:16:58 +0000 mnc_hnn 8588@/community/discussions
I saw this clip randomly on youtube while I was browsing funny clips. It featured this lady who was just talking to the webcam; she was crying about how her husband left her just after they married and etc etc..
I realise that she is probably lonely and may be it was her fault whatever happened, happened.

I did not watch the whole clip but I started wondering about how is it possibly that people so willingly let their guards down and fall in love, aften with another person who does not understand the seriousness of how their partner has attached their lives to them.
I'd probably do the same. But I wish there was something to do to stop this happening. These people never live the same again if their relationship collapses.
I would rather have it that love didn't exist than to be susceptable to all this hurt and suffering.

I think those people who do not live by emotions are blessed. Love would make you weak and helpless.
I have come to hate "love" as a process even though I know there is no better feeling and I will continue to need it and be humiliated by the need of it. This hate is due to fear and worrying and real life situations and relationships that broke right before my own eyes.


I began to refuse to believe that love can survive the problems in life.]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/8691/relationships Wed, 13 Jan 2010 18:41:37 +0000 [Deleted User] 8691@/community/discussions The user and all related content has been deleted.]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/9099/confession-concern Sun, 11 Apr 2010 17:26:25 +0000 vomo 9099@/community/discussions
Thank you ]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/9055/my-younger-sister Thu, 01 Apr 2010 09:30:37 +0000 JonahYoussef 9055@/community/discussions
i clearly cant talk to abouna because he will be biased on her behalf because she usually acts in front of him too and he doesnt know her behind closed doors.
on my part, what else should i do about it? ]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/9065/wanting-to-be-a-higher-ranked-deacon Sun, 04 Apr 2010 15:41:43 +0000 kyrillos123 9065@/community/discussions https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/9037/eating Mon, 29 Mar 2010 23:44:05 +0000 i.love.st.demyana. 9037@/community/discussions https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/9064/greetings Sun, 04 Apr 2010 15:08:42 +0000 John_S2000 9064@/community/discussions https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/9058/i-can-t-stand-this-help Fri, 02 Apr 2010 11:06:57 +0000 deaconmark123 9058@/community/discussions and stuff. What should I do. I confessed it all but I still remember it all and it makes me want to cry. Because now I'm trying to focus on my prayers and my salvation and
my life with God.... What should I do? What does it mean?]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/9011/deleted Thu, 25 Mar 2010 08:40:44 +0000 seekfirst 9011@/community/discussions https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/9039/facebook-and-holy-week Tue, 30 Mar 2010 14:01:29 +0000 i.love.st.demyana. 9039@/community/discussions
During this blessed Holy Week, i gave up Facebook. I thought it would be an easy thing to do since i only had to give it up for a week. I then realized that i was very tempted to go on it and sadly, i did.

I then realized that after Holy Week, i would probably go to my natural state of going on Facebook 2 or 3 times a day. After Holy Week, I would like to limit my time going on that website. If i could, i want to delete my page all together, but first i would like to go on only once or twice a week.

Do you guys have any suggestions to how i should be less tempted to go on that website after Holy Week?

Your sister in Christ]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/8679/jealousy Sun, 10 Jan 2010 15:24:12 +0000 marmar357 8679@/community/discussions it's a feauture of my character  ???
How can you defeat jealousy, like be jealous on a girl who is more beautifull, smarter or
more social then you. How can you get self confidence if you are very uncertain about yourself?

thanx, GBU]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/9022/bad-influences-on-your-kids Sat, 27 Mar 2010 05:15:41 +0000 Zoxsasi 9022@/community/discussions
I think this question is for parents to answer, but if you are not a parent, you can still answer if you want.

What do you do (or what should you do) when a member of your family or in-law is not Christian and behaves in a way that could badly influence your kids?

Has anyone been through this?

What do you do?

If they were a Christian, and practicing, it would be so easily to draw their attention using the Bible, but what if they are a member of your family (whether in-law or direct) and they have a bad influence on your children - what should you do?

Thanks]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/9018/i-can-t-stand-my-friend-anymore Fri, 26 Mar 2010 05:29:46 +0000 9018@/community/discussions
I life in Europe and I have a best friend.
We have been known each other for about 4 years now and we sing together in the church. She is 19 and I 17. She is half egyptian and half european. We are always together in church.

The problem is, the last period my friend is behaving blunt and unpretty to me and she behave like she knows and is everything and is too busy to only say 'hi' to anyone, (however she always hang around with her friends of school who she know for a long time, but who are not christians, and for her best friend from church she haven't even time to talk to,)
characteristic of me is that I am quite sentimental/emotional and I love people fast, but another feature of me is that I'm soon jealous. But last time I spoke to her on msn messenger and I said: hey, I wanna talk 2 u. Do u miss me? Instead she said "hi dear' or something, she says: "I don't have time to miss anyone. I: "But it's a feeling. (you don't have to do something). She: I have to much to do, you need time for that. I: but I have also not much time (I am in last year of highschool, so very busy) and nevertheless I miss you. Don't u have time to talk to me? She:  First, I work 8 hours a day. I: but you are online now too She: because I have to make a exercise  (don't know what, coz she yet isn't begin with college).
I: with who? She:with nobody, but my msn is just open. I: so if it's open you can talk to me.
She: Alright, then I will close it now, okay?!
Then she closed the chat in my face. I don't understand, what I have done wrong?? I though about it a lot and I know u first have to search the fault in yourself, but I still don't understand. If I'm wrong, I try to say Sorry, you're right. But She never confess her faults and always thinks it's the other who is wrong. I don't want judge someone, but in my opinion she is quite arrogant and proud. She always behave and says things like she is everything.
I CAN NOT STAND IT ANYMORE! And other times I call her always and she never calls me, very sometimes she sent me  a message, but that's it. And when I say to her, I don't feel good what u are doing, she said "you are oversentimental and it's sometimes very annoying." Okay, I am emotional, but what I have to do? Must I have a heart of stone?! It's just me.  ???

I don't know what to do know, appologise to her? (however I still don't know, what I have done wrong). Or what? (i know she never is gonna tell sorry, she just wait until the other person is coming to her).
And she is my best friend (however I feel last period she isn't such a good friend) and I don't have many friends and she is often the only person with who I really hang around in the church. In school I don't have much friends ( only 2, 3), cause they are so not my typ. (European, not coptic or something). It really hurt me.  :( And also I want to know, how to make friends, coz I am quite shy to begin a conversation or if I don't am shy, I don't know what to say. and I have so little confidence in myself..

ANy help please?

God bless, pray 4 me
]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/9007/exodus-26-29 Wed, 24 Mar 2010 14:20:21 +0000 ebnyasoo3 9007@/community/discussions So I was reading exodus and the description of the ark, the tabernacle and all the things in the altar and I remembered that one of my friends showed  me a model of the old testament's  altar and the tabernacle so I was wondering if anyone has a model of that because some of the description is hard to understand

Thanks God bless]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/8927/what-should-i-do Sun, 07 Mar 2010 19:57:11 +0000 ServentofGod 8927@/community/discussions https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/8952/is-that-okay Mon, 15 Mar 2010 20:14:11 +0000 ServentofGod 8952@/community/discussions https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/8837/study Tue, 16 Feb 2010 23:17:30 +0000 Christrules 8837@/community/discussions
I have a really bug problem! Im usually very studious. I usually study hard and long and usually get good marks. Lately ive been getting lazy, slothful even and my marks are slipping big time! Im in grade 11 so this yr and next yr really count!
Guys i need help how do i get out of this mood!

I need any tips
Spiritual
Psychological
whatever, just anything guys please!

God bless]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/8881/memory-loss Thu, 25 Feb 2010 22:25:38 +0000 deaconmark123 8881@/community/discussions https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/8900/self-examination Mon, 01 Mar 2010 19:38:55 +0000 Tzegemariam 8900@/community/discussions
Fasting is half-way done and i was wondering how could i Self-Examine myself?
If anyone has any tips to self-examining please reply

May God help us and have mercy on us


a sinner
]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/8921/what-to-do Sat, 06 Mar 2010 06:28:38 +0000 Maryilftpd 8921@/community/discussions
On my way into church to the benches, I am always greeted by older ladies who stand near the entry and the back, who always talk to me about marriage on a weekly basis. They point to my ring finger and start making facial expressions and saying things like "when will this happen?". It is seriously slowing me down on the way to the benches in church.

There is a context around this. My friend, who happens to be younger than me by a little less than a year got engaged a few weeks ago. And I have another friend who got married at the age of 17. There is a peculiar mentality that is shared among some people which I personally frown at- "Settle down by the age of 22, after that a woman becomes too old". I frankly don't care what the world thinks, I want to wait.

I have tried the following things:

-I have tried praying about it so I don't get approached.
-I have tried talking to my FOC about it, he says that because they are older ladies (older than him) he would feel that he is not in the position to bring up issues with them because its a matter of culture rather than religion, (and thats perfectly understandable).
-I have put on my sharb outside covering the sides of my face so they don't notice me when I make my way inside. But they did.
-I have come earlier to church but they are always some of the first people who turn up.
-I have tried terminating their words by telling them that I will talk to them later, but they still persist.
-I even tried the "enshalla, enshalla, enshalla" approach, and then they start with the "I have the best man for you, my son's son... blah blah blah ebn nas, tayyeb...".
-I have tried telling them in all honesty, "I want to wait", they point at their watch as if my biological clock is running out.
-I held the Agpia in front of my face and prayed on my way in so they don't disturb me, it worked for a few months actually and I was so happy until my friend got engaged and they started disturbing me again.

I can suffer this when church is finished, I don't mind, but when I am making my way in church I expect not to be disturbed by useless talk. This has really become an obstacle to my spirituality in the church especially since the engagement of my friend, where I have never heard so many people say "you're next" over and over again, it still rings in my ear and gives me a headache thinking about it.

Because they are older, I don't want to disrespect them by telling them to stop, they are lovely ladies and I know they care (maybe a bit too much) but they really slow me down as I make my way to the benches of the church, sometimes even ask me to take a walk with them to the church kitchen to do a "favor" for them before I have a chance to step foot in the church in order to talk to me about marriage. What to do?

I would really appreciate answers from people who have experienced this.]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/8907/somewhat-of-a-predicament Tue, 02 Mar 2010 19:53:16 +0000 gregorytheSinner 8907@/community/discussions
Problem is he's not exactly the most 'honest' person out there, by this i mean he hides many things from her.  These things include sexual history, previous failed serious relationships/engagements, current relationships w/ other girls [not that he's cheating on her, but some of these 'other' girls were led to/still believe that they're might be something [marriage] in the future.]  In addition, he almost converted to another religion b/c of his then-girlfriend [its a long story, but he was basically doing it for 'beneficial' reasons not spiritual.]

His family knows about most of these things, but they're keeping quiet, so as to not ruin his chances of getting married to a 'good' Christian girl. 

Personally, i've known all these things b/c we are close, and i know its sad [b/c it contradicts Christianity] but i've never lectured him on these things, b/c i'm far off worse than he is, and it isn't appropriate for me to get on my high horse and confront him about it. However, i've never considered marriage, but now that he is... is it morally wrong for me to mind my own business and let things work themselves out b/w him and her?]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/8899/silence Mon, 01 Mar 2010 16:19:23 +0000 TITL 8899@/community/discussions
Sometimes, k not sometimes.. all the time.., I feel like I talk way toooo much, and not even in a good way! A lot of what I say is idle and most definitely not useful.
I will be held accountable for each and every word that is uttered out of my mouth. What a scary thought!
So this fast I am really trying to control my tongue... although, sometimes when I am with my friends, I feel like I get a little carried away, and just start talking about things that don't benefit me in any way. I think I get this from my older brother, who NEVER stops talking lol. Seeee, there I go again with the talking! Clearly I need help.

Any advice is appreciated :)
]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/8814/fasting-inquiry Fri, 12 Feb 2010 02:06:01 +0000 Marieanne 8814@/community/discussions
I understand that on some packets of food, even foods that do not have anything to do with milk, it says "contains milk", and I learnt to avoid them all, but the may contain is sending me bananas!!

What do ya'll do?]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/8864/monastic-life Mon, 22 Feb 2010 13:26:39 +0000 user00 8864@/community/discussions
What advice would you give for those considering the monastic life? Also, what is daily monastic life like, and what are the requirements for entering the monastery/convent? Are there differences (other than gender obviously) between monasteries and convents in requirements, lifestyle, etc?


Thanks]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/8869/performing-abortions Tue, 23 Feb 2010 16:09:26 +0000 gregorytheSinner 8869@/community/discussions https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/4736/signs Thu, 07 Dec 2006 20:00:11 +0000 Saviour lives in m 4736@/community/discussions
im abit worried about my cousin (male), he's been acting really weird lately, like getting really close and his interest in girls is slowly declining, we go out alot but these days he's not all that keeen, he's really touchy as in hugs alot and gives you little personal distance. you know i would love him no matter what, but im not sure what to do

so should i:

a) asking him straight out are you gay?
b) tell his parents and let them deal with it (hopefully he comes out alive)
c) try and line him up with some of my girlfriends
d)recommend counselling
e) or just leave it, its not really my business (although im certain it is, i want the best for him)

any comments and feedback is appreciated but again i ask you to refrain from criticism if possible

salam]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/8862/little-brother-problem Mon, 22 Feb 2010 08:58:16 +0000 Tzegemariam 8862@/community/discussions :)

So  I have a little problem,

My little brother is constantly on the computer and doesn't like when people tell him to get off.( he basically only listens when i threaten to call my dad.)
And he has a lack of respect for me. I remember when we were younger and i would discipline( like hit him if he was disrespectful) he would respect me. But i've noticed the respect has now slimed.
How can i gain respect from my brother?
Is it okay for me to hit him?
***he is almost 12***
May God help you guys to answer the question.
an unworthy sinner
]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/8835/what-should-i-do Tue, 16 Feb 2010 20:40:14 +0000 CertifiedOrthodox 8835@/community/discussions
Some guy at Church asked me out for a coffee. I'm new in the city, and I don't know many people. I'd like to make friends etc, but I'm just concerned that if others see me with him, they'll think "Oh! She's taken!" and then I'll never get married.

What should I do?

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