https://tasbeha.org/community/categories/personal-issues/p17/feed.rss Mon, 22 Jun 2026 04:10:51 +0000 Personal Issues - Tasbeha.org Community en-CA https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/10466/i-am-not-sure-what-god-wants-me-to-do Sat, 15 Jan 2011 23:24:51 +0000 copticuser20 10466@/community/discussions https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/9988/tom-boying Fri, 12 Nov 2010 07:09:06 +0000 colugi 9988@/community/discussions https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/10331/i-hate-everything Fri, 31 Dec 2010 13:28:49 +0000 [Deleted User] 10331@/community/discussions The user and all related content has been deleted.]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/10408/local-chapter-of-tasbeha Fri, 07 Jan 2011 01:11:53 +0000 joseph.vandenbrink 10408@/community/discussions I appreciate any help I get.  ]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/10370/being-rude Tue, 04 Jan 2011 15:25:40 +0000 yousiegtennis 10370@/community/discussions https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/10374/ctv-in-america Tue, 04 Jan 2011 16:46:45 +0000 geomike15000 10374@/community/discussions https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/10357/pledging-sorority-fraternity Mon, 03 Jan 2011 13:28:20 +0000 GodsDaughter 10357@/community/discussions https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/10209/i-turn-to-boys-for-happiness Fri, 17 Dec 2010 10:48:33 +0000 DaughterOfHope 10209@/community/discussions https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/10144/problem-yet-again Wed, 08 Dec 2010 13:35:46 +0000 yousiegtennis 10144@/community/discussions https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/5382/what-can-i-do Thu, 31 May 2007 02:30:53 +0000 5382@/community/discussions
I have a question. My priest recently did something soo wicked and dishonest to a friend of mine and myself. It was very cruel and hurtful. He didnt apologise NOR correct it.

I called him many times to make peace and tell him he hurt us, and he didnt answer his phone.

We went to the Church on Saturday to make peace with him, and he just walked out of the church, and never came back. He saw us, but walked out of the Church with some of his friends. My friend recently got baptised, and wanted to take communion so we thought it would be wise to clear the air between us before SUnday. He didnt come back Saturday evening, so we went SO EARLY to the Church on Sunday. I met him before the mass, and he said, shouting "YABNI!! I HAVE A MASS TO PRAY".

He didnt even give me a chance to say what I wanted. He just shouted. He knew he had offended us deeply. But did nothing.

Then i went into the alter to tell him that my friend would like to see him before he starts mass just so they can make peace together, but instead of listening to me, he took the microphone and shouted "YABNI, I HAVE A MASS TO PRAY" - this is when the deacons were getting dressed.

[YEAH... KNFOC, I HATE IT TOO WHEN PEOPLE SAY YABNI - i see what u mean.. i wanted to tell him :LOOK! Don't call me Yabni, and I won't call u abouna!! But i didnt. Its REALLY Mo7rega how he talks to us, and the word "yabni" when said like this, doesnt mean "my son" - its meaning changes into "my subordinate, or slave. Its strange how intonation can make a difference in how something means; as if he said ya Ebni, its better than YABNI"].

I couldnt believe that he was going to pray a mass and had offended others. I hated that.

My friend was crying and we left the Church together; i slammed the church door actually, but i was so mad. Anyway, but we came back later thanks to our God mother that convinced us that we should stay and have communion, and decided to have communion. I didnt have it because I was still a bit upset, but my friend did.

ANyway, after the mass, abouna was giving out the Orbanas. We went up to him and took some orbana. He didnt even look at us. He just gave us the orbana each and didnt SAY A WORD. If he was busy during the mass, then why not talk to us now???

ANyway, on seeing this, i was deeply offended, so i put the orbana he gave me BACK into the basket and left. 

My questions are this:

* How can I have communion if im upset with him?

* I thought that you had to make peace with others before having communion??

He doesnt answer our emails, our voice calls etc.. and we have to call him from someone else's phone?


The main question is this: How on earth can a priest have communion himself RIGHT AFTER doing this?? I mean, this is so offensive. Its a scary. In fact, we're both scared of him now. Neither of us want to see him again, but unfortunately its the ONLY CHURCH that's reasonably close to us.

This is soooo sad, because i don't mind people not liking me, but we should all make peace before communion. We don't have to be "best friends". But he was sooo cruel to us. I have to admit, although what he did was not honest to us that made us mad in the beginning, what he did resulted in NOTHING. But his actions still in doing that have shocked me, and i wanted them to be addressed before we have communion. Perhaps this is why he's avoiding us?? He doesnt want to explain himself and he feels totally stupid himself about his actions? Im not sure. If he had just said "im sorry" , we'd be soo happy, and have treated him as if he'd done nothing....

We are talking about the Holy Spirit convicting your heart, but how on earth can the Spirit of Love, and Peace direct you to this???

I was mad because i think its mockery of this Holy Sacrement to partake of it KNOWING that you've upset someone, and when the chance to make peace with them is there, you refuse it.

Its strange.

What does everyone think??


Ps. KNFOC - whenever I said "yabni" before, it was actually mocking the way priests say it to us... and u are right, well done for pointing that out. I hate it too!!!! LOL (THANKS!)

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Thank you very much for your efforts.

Please pray for me,
The Chief Sinner,
Geomike15000]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/10276/fasting-difficulties Fri, 24 Dec 2010 22:25:49 +0000 fanp94 10276@/community/discussions
I have a really hard issue. At the moment, our family began fasting at the beginning of kiahk. As time went on we had family problem amongst ourselves as our family member was sick and needed constant company. So us running around caused us to be very busy and our family bit by bit broke their fasts. Me and my father are the only ones currently remaining our fast as opposed to the rest of the family who are fatreen. I'm stuck watching my family eat fitary food while I'm eating fish and fool... I tried discussing the matter and no use. What do I do?  ???

Thanks.]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/10274/something-bad-mature-topic-mature-people-only Fri, 24 Dec 2010 11:08:56 +0000 The_worst 10274@/community/discussions      Okay so last night i was at a party with a couple of my friends, and they were all drunk and i was not, i was just there. Except for this one girl who was also there from before that was not drunk also. Me and this girl are good friends and we knew each other from before. On this night we were all in my friends room and we were just laying in his bed laughing and making jokes (all of us). Then i went to go sit on his floor, and suddenly i dont quite remember how

[Moderated: The poster has committed a sexual sin, the details have been removed]


I really REALLY am going crazy, and randomly when i think about what i did i go crazy, my mind just gets black and i start getting angry and upset. I am the biggest contradiction on earth....I know so much about the church, i know so much alhan, i go to any service there is at church, and i still go out and do this? it doesnt make sense to me.

All i am asking is what can i do, i cant take communion, i cant go to liturgy, and i cant step into church. Not untill i have taken confession. And even still i know that when i take confession i will still feel just as dirty. Please PLEASEE someone help me i am lost, and i have no clue as to what i am doing anymore because i cant live my life as a contradiction anymore, i cant. I want to cry sometimes but i just cant i dont know why.

I know this is a long post, but please someone bear with me. I am a horrible person and all i am asking for is 5 minutes of your time to help me. Thanks in advance ]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/10282/coptic-historians Sun, 26 Dec 2010 06:54:36 +0000 Viv 10282@/community/discussions
ok, so I'm thinking about going to graduate school. I want to study coptic history. As I understand it, you need to find a professor in a university that has a similar research interest to you, and then apply to that university. my problem is that I can't find too many coptic history historians. there's suppose to be a lot in England, but I just can't seem to find any. If anyone knows of any coptic historians, I need as many names as possible. thank youu.]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/10235/i-don-t-get-it Mon, 20 Dec 2010 10:14:39 +0000 DaughterOfHope 10235@/community/discussions
I also know many people who started relationships during their teen years (as early as 9th grade) and they became successful. Some are engaged, some are married, some are starting families ! & they all seem so happy. So i don't understand how it can be wrong... Another thing is that many people in the older generations are immature. I compare some to younger ones & the maturity levels differ greatly. Although one might be younger, they are not always less mature. I think serious relationships depend on the maturity level you are at. Perhaps i take things more seriously then a sophomore in college; does that mean they can start a relationship just because they are older ? I don't think so.

The last thing i will add is the fact that you are supposed to have a good relationship/bond with God in order to have a good/successful earthly one. I know that. But some younger ones have a better tie with God than some older ones. So shouldn't that mean that they are more ready ?

Opinions are much needed ! Please & thank you.(:]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/9985/love-vs-forced-love Fri, 12 Nov 2010 03:46:33 +0000 Batates74 9985@/community/discussions
I'm new to this site but I love the Tasbeha community! I usually don't ask for personal advice on forums like this but I've been thinking about this extensively and coming to no conclusions so I'm hoping you can help me.

I guess my question is for those in a relationship already: How did you know he/she was the right one? How do you know if it's true love? What does that kind of love feel like? Ever since I was little, I used to watch movies where the heart pounded and there were butterflies in the stomach when the girl falls in love... I know that most mmovies are unrealistic but I sometimes wish I felt like that even a little when I see my soon-to-be fiance.

What do you guys and gals think? any advice?

thanks]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/5582/sex-before-marriage Wed, 18 Jul 2007 19:25:24 +0000 katz903 5582@/community/discussions https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/10079/university Wed, 01 Dec 2010 18:55:22 +0000 joeg 10079@/community/discussions
Well, I started uni this year, and its a big experience and there's independence and all of that, but I've just seem to run out of time when it comes to my spiritual time. I'm working around the clock, on essays and assignments and study, and the time seems to pass so quickly. I sleep late, and so end up being tired in the morning. I usually force myself to pray at least Compline before going to bed from the Agpeya, but I have been getting lazy recently and end up neglecting this. I'm tired in the mornings, and have no time to pray more than a few words, if that, before heading off to my lectures. It's not something I'm proud of, I feel severely lacking.

And being locked up in my room a lot of the time, I feel that the temptation I face is of a much higher magnitude than anything I've experienced before. So, the enemy strikes at me in when I feel weak, and often I fall.

At the end of every day, I am aware that I am sinking deeper and deeper into the mire. And I know that I cannot pull myself out alone. So I pray, but come the next storm I am back in the mud.

While typing this, I've realised that the solution to my problem lies in praying more, putting more effort into living a holier life, trying to increase my exposure and time spent in the church to stop myself from feeling that I'm alone. And reading more of the Bible.

I'm not really sure if I should post this now or not...

pray for me

joe

]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/10132/abu-seifein-s-miracle-with-my-mom Mon, 06 Dec 2010 19:06:39 +0000 marym2 10132@/community/discussions
I just wanted to share something really amazing that happened to my family 3 years ago that has to do with Abu Seifein since his commemoration was a couple days ago.

In Nov, 2007 two days before my 18th birthday my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer and she was put on the top of the list to have a mastectomy because the doctors were really concerned about her case. We were terrified that it had spread to her lymphs because the tumor was big and it had actually deformed her breast... and my mom had ignored it for a long time (I DO NOT know why.. I didn't know about it). She had her surgery in December around the time of Abu Seifein's commemoration so we were all asking him to intercede for her. The day of the surgery my tita and I stayed home and we decided to listen to some spiritual tapes to give us comfort... well Abu Seifein kept coming up everywhere every tape/cd/movie we randomly picked out of our collection was of him, it was as if he was telling us he was with my mom. Then my aunt went to pray at Abu S. church before her surgery, Abouna was coming out and the only oil he had in his pocket was Abu Seifein's! Then someone gave us the sleeve that we put the bodies of the saints in that belonged to.. guess who? Abu S. So he was with my mom the whole time and he made sure of it! I have to thank him every year for interceding for us. Also, another Abouna happened to be at the hospital giving someone communion so right before my mom went in Abouna let her kiss the Body or he put it in her mouth, I can't remember exactly.

Her cancer didn't spread even though it was a possibility since the doctors were worried. My mom is done treatment and everything now and she's doing great thank God. Just wanted to share a personal miracle. Anyone else have stories?

God is so good!
mary]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/10156/the-problem-with-the-fast Thu, 09 Dec 2010 21:57:42 +0000 servant33 10156@/community/discussions https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/6524/a-miracle-and-help Mon, 28 Apr 2008 03:06:45 +0000 coptic youth 6524@/community/discussions Ive got a personal experience with a mircale that happened to me and my brother in christ very recently. My brother was in immense pain and as i was talking to him over the net God sent me a wake up call. I had totally diffrent way of life before i spoke to that person, but at the end of the convo everything changed for the better. I wasnt going to go to Bright Saturday service, but because of the determenation and love for God of that person I went. He was in the worse shape ive ever seen him, i was moved by his pain and tribulation. As Abu-Sefien is my intercessor, i went to his altar and i asked him to heal my brother within 3 days, i also went to St,mary and pleaded with her. I had faith that God will perform wonders. By Gods will, this brother was better on Easter Sunday and was healed feeling much better, but still remains with shoulder pain yet to be healed. I thanked God and St.Mary and Abu-Sefien who healed him. I now ask that if someone can give me directions of how i could send this miracle in to be written in Abu-Sefien miracle books, as i need to record it that would be greatly appreciated.

Pray for my weakness,

Coptic Youth]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/10148/staying-focused Wed, 08 Dec 2010 19:17:52 +0000 TITL 10148@/community/discussions https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/10139/fail Tue, 07 Dec 2010 18:25:09 +0000 Bimbo123 10139@/community/discussions https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/10114/i-felt-that-i-just-had-to-share-this-verse Mon, 06 Dec 2010 08:30:20 +0000 joeg 10114@/community/discussions
"Look to Me and be saved, All you ends of the earth! For I am God, and there is no other." (Isaiah 45:22).

Sorry if this isn't worth a thread, I just felt the urge to share it  :)]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/10066/summer-holidays Tue, 30 Nov 2010 01:49:21 +0000 colugi 10066@/community/discussions https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/10089/hh-pope-shenouda-liturgies-of-the-feasts Thu, 02 Dec 2010 20:28:26 +0000 hany58 10089@/community/discussions I really like the Liturgies by HH Pope Shenouda of the Feasts. Does anyone where I can download them?
thanks
]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/9494/i-really-need-help-i-feel-like-i-can-t-cope-anymore Sat, 24 Jul 2010 08:35:24 +0000 hany58 9494@/community/discussions I hesitated a lot before I placed this topic, but I really feel that i need help.
I'm going through a very hard time in my life & I do not know what to do. I have been praying about my problem every day for almost 3 years now, but I feel that there is no response from God. I really want to get married, but unfortunately there is no one in my church to get married to, I proposed twice to two girls but both of them rejected me which makes me feel that maybe I'm less attractive than the other guys or something. All my friends in my age got married already, & I feel that I'm the only one that is single. I always had this dream of getting married to a girl that will understand me & will spend the rest of her life with me, but I started feeling that this dream will never ever become true. My parents suggested that I immigrate to another country & transfer my job so that I can have more opportunities to get married, but I don't know whether to take this decision or not. Maybe my parents are right & maybe they're wrong, I don't know. I know that God is working & he is choosing the best for me, but I sometimes feel that my faith is very weak & that I don't trust that God is doing the best for me. Please let me know your opinion, & sorry for the long topic.

God bless ]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/10011/should-i-pray-for-his-return-or-just-let-him-go Fri, 19 Nov 2010 01:30:24 +0000 selinda_liang 10011@/community/discussions
He left me because he thinks it is impossible for us to get together.we are in different countries,I am in China now.No money no visa.

I have been praying for our relationship,because I believe with God nothing is impossible.when we were together,we often shared Bible and our faith.It was good to meet a person who loved me,respected me and we had lots of in common.

But now he fell in love with another chinese girl who is in local.But she is not a chritian.They alreayd have very close relationship now before marriage.

when he told me this,my heart is so hurt.every day and night,I cry and pray to God.
I wish to pray for his return.but on the other hand,I am afraid it is the will of God.

so should I pray for his return and his faith or just let him go forever?
I am very sad he cannot wait for God and me with patient.

Thank you for your answer and help here.

God bless you all my brothers or sisters in Christ.

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-thanks]]> https://tasbeha.org/community/discussion/10009/stress Fri, 19 Nov 2010 00:15:26 +0000 Christrules 10009@/community/discussions Can anyone give me a verse, a saying of the desert fathers or anything in that line that will help me relax when i freak out? ]]>