Jerty, Don't stay with that girl - she's telling you she is willing to cheat even if she is in a marriage and you are in a marriage!! Leave that girl and find someone more dedicated and mature!! You are confused because that doesn't suit what you want.
I come from a culture that is accepting of the dating scene. There are rules to it of course. But, as for finding someone to "practice" on, I can tell you that that is a major misconception. Even in my culture if you do not have the thought of marrying someone then you had just better leave them be. Be with someone who can either
1 - work with you for a great life
2- comes from the same form of culture-religion
3- is willing to convert and do 80% or more of the changes (they will be living in two worlds) (Which is me ... ha
I've always liked the culture before I met him. And I make some of the best Mologheya according to him
All these new thoughts about "you-know-what" before marriage and whatever else there is is just misguided kids trying to be cool.
Okay ... lost my train of thought ... hmmm ...
Anyway, my fiance (not really yet - but I have been with him long enough that his family calls us that, 2 years as of November 18) he is Egyptian Coptic and I'm pan-European Metis-Blackfoot Lutheran (haha sorry had to be descriptive there I hate the term "white"). We are in what you call "dating-relationship mode". This is why
1- planning on getting married
2- in my culture we have three stages to getting married, and the stage where we learn who each other is through dating
3- we consider engagment the final step towards marriage
4- we are always with each other and very serious with each other
5- traditionally, women in my culture convert and take housewife roles - even if we do work outside the home, until children come
Traditionally, back in Canadian culture we also had the same steps until everyone moved into the cities (my Mennonite Dutch grandparents did the same). But, now the idea of "Dating" someone took the place of engagment. Back in those days the man did ask the girl's father if he could marry her. But, maybe because of finances or a new way of life people began to "date" and enter into "relationships" to get to know someone and fall in love. With us back when we believed in love comes after marriage, we even had arranged marriages.
So, shortly (sorry I was trying to explain from a local cultural view point) yes, dating is okay if you know both what you want, avoid "temptations", are dedicated to one another, can't live without one another and really really love each other.
But, unfortunately A LOT of people have fallen away from that. So, think with your head first, then your heart. And, if you have faith you will find someone. Maybe someone German like me
seems like we are a good mixture. Even one of his uncles married a German woman. I think she was Mennonite too. She converted and they have a good life together
Just my personal thoughts, expectations and experience