If I have feelings for someone and parents try to be wiser than me and discourage me but then I persist in my feelings and they are forced to say just like they did for monasticism think about this after you finish university or whatever.
Are my feelings wrong? they have not blessing my feelings but have convinced me I may be wrong. I may truly get my feelings hurt and other obstacles. But I am happy with my choices
Father and Mother have not always been able to help me in my afflictions
"When Father and Mother forsake me than the LORD will take care of me"
I will not marry someone I do not trust or love or am willing to take the consequences. I will not marry someone which might be harmful to the world or church
The problem is parents or church (I mean some people here even might have said something). I say church because I expect priests wanting to be my guide in everything. Thing is I do not trust priests which is a problem.
Once I went to a coptic orthodox group on campus and there was a priest and he saw me look at people (I was not looking with lust) and he wanted to please the people there and acted like he was joking and he said do not marry from those people? that is when I was studying physiotherapy
Anyway I thought I won't be happy until I follow my feelings and love the person I marry. There are many types of person I thought I want to marry. I won't say here so I don't embarass people here. But all those people I had compassion for
I had written a letter to someone I wanted to marry who is on this forum but saved it in my email because I thought I am not ready to make commitment now and my mother wanted to act like I am not ready to make choices now and I should marry someone who loves me. But I am the one who decides that not my parents!
I want to share the letter here but I feel it is too late
because my parents confused me just like they confused me for monasticism I have become confused I even read in the bible that God condemned the sons of seth for marrying from the daughters of men and sinners. But God commanded Hosea to marry a prostitute. But he was guided by God and that was an exception. And I certainly will not marry someone who I do not trust. I don't feel God's approval for it. God commanded priests not to marry a widow, a non virgin, or a divorced woman
do not make decisions because you want to judge me for being slow and do not put guilt on my shoulders
Do not misunderstand me I did not write a marriage proposal but friendship and possibly dating
edit: I know the church might have the right but what about 1 priest? whom you believe all priests are almost infallible. I understand now that perhaps priests would not often give bad advice because they also confess to another priest. But sometimes both are wrong and you would need to ask all the priests and what if they are all wrong but I highly doubt it but they may ignore the right one