I'm just wondering what this really means. In a few senses,
1. To what extent should that submission be? I mean I know another verse says "in everything" but can there really be no limitations? Like if one's husband tells her to do something that goes against God's word, or she feels God is calling her to a certain service and her husband tries to forbid her from following God's call, should she not submit to God over her husband?
2. In the wedding, the commandment to the bride includes, "do not disagree with him." How literal and how strict is this? It this to be taken to the extent where the wife essentially loses her mind (not in the sense of going crazy, but in the sense of losing her ability to formulate her own thoughts and opinions)? Like is this to say that by being the wife, her opinions are automatically wrong, or just not worth as much as those of her husband, so she should conform to him in every situation? Or is it to say that if they have come to a point where they cannot reach an agreement, she should submit and back off for the sake of not arguing too much?
3. another part of the wedding: "do not frown in his face" Is this to say that she should suppress her emotions in order to make her husband more comfortable? Like if she's had a bad day, is she supposed to hold that back so her husband thinks everything is fine, or should she share that emotion of upset with him? If it is referring to her being upset with him, shouldn't she also tell him when something about him or something he did has upset her? Or if he has hurt her somehow, should she not let him know seriously, and in this case if she smiles and/or laughs while confronting this couldn't it be taken as a joke, making her feelings not fully heard?
4. This is the last one: should she still submit in a situation that becomes dangerous (ie. husband is being very abusive--in any sort of way--and there have been no signs of change for a long time) Like in a case like this, should she not get herself out of the situation rather than submit to it, especially when children are involved? (note I am not saying divorce, you can leave a situation for a while without actually going for divorce. please do not turn this question into a divorce debate)
Thanks guys! God bless!